Dump that boyfriend! Things will rebound. It happens to all of us. My tank was nice .... Now, because of my wife's car .... long story. Which, incidentally, is why shared corals are tougher ... they have to be. You need some branching hammer and neon toadstools! That is what I usually give out and recommend to new tanks. Very hardy, looks nice, and does not become a plague like Kenya/Xenia can. You mentioned Geneva -- are you in East Bay near Union City. I might be able to make some frags.